tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post1120362841942916377..comments2023-11-05T05:17:45.320-05:00Comments on Model Minority "Thugs, Feminists and Boom Bap": On Waiting Around for A ManM.Dot.http://www.blogger.com/profile/05113752779973426025noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-7269751281087077992008-09-25T22:38:00.000-04:002008-09-25T22:38:00.000-04:00His response was, does that mean you will or won't...His response was, does that mean you will or won't go out with me tonight?<BR/><BR/>I think I actually walking around thinking there are an abundance of men who are replaceable. Perhaps I need to rethink my own work.love life balance.<BR/>========<BR/>Ain't that some shit?<BR/>Like damn.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-30430068616116414852008-09-25T12:38:00.000-04:002008-09-25T12:38:00.000-04:00In reading this I sometimes wonder how and where I...In reading this I sometimes wonder how and where I fit in as a woman, or perhaps due to my upbringing I have been socialized differently. <BR/><BR/>I am more the type to put men or relationships on pause to secure my career. So much so that it's been a challenge in many of my relationships over the past ten years. I literally get lost in my work and have a hard time finding my way out sometimes.<BR/><BR/>Just the other day I was having a talk with a dude I've been seeing about how I'd like to progress things...my answer was in a month.<BR/><BR/>His response was, does that mean you will or won't go out with me tonight?<BR/><BR/>I think I actually walking around thinking there are an abundance of men who are replaceable. Perhaps I need to rethink my own work.love life balance.A.u.n.t. Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342245586271716564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-31226440781484467782008-09-24T15:25:00.000-04:002008-09-24T15:25:00.000-04:00Allright Darwin....Ta hehehehe.I think we are on t...Allright Darwin....Ta hehehehe.<BR/><BR/>I think we are on that nature/nuture zone...Imma be easy...But...he basically speaks on this issue, but frames it from his, a male, perspective.<BR/><BR/>http://www.marclamonthill.com/mlhblog/?p=5810Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-36094018346096924782008-09-24T14:55:00.000-04:002008-09-24T14:55:00.000-04:00Negro. Based on what?Are you saying that there is ...Negro. Based on what?<BR/><BR/>Are you saying that there is a pleasure for security trade off taking place?<BR/><BR/>If so, based on what?<BR/><BR/>Most of the evidence out there comes from studying other primates.<BR/><BR/>First, the gender difference in Humans are real. Men are typically larger and stronger.<BR/><BR/>Also, researchers studying primate social structure have identified various social group compositions like single female and her offspring, one-male-several-female, monogamous, polyandrous, etc.<BR/><BR/>Around the world, humans mostly subscribe to monogamy. In social arrangements like this the bigger and stronger partner is the one responsible for security. <BR/><BR/>As far as men thinking women are expendable, replaceable and in ample supply, that comes form my experience. Is it true across the board of course not, but are largely driven by their sexual impulses which more often tells them to get as many women as possible.TROUBLManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341356041977824446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-37504894966477594652008-09-24T09:04:00.000-04:002008-09-24T09:04:00.000-04:00i was looking over the ballot initiatives in CA th...i was looking over the ballot initiatives in CA this year and noticed prop 5, 6, and 9. all dealing with crime, and specifically drug laws. i wonder why we haven't heard more about this?<BR/>=========<BR/>I posit that we haven't heard more because we treat poverty and addiction like they are crimes, begging for punishment.<BR/> what's your take on them?<BR/>=========<BR/>I know that there is a bill to treat MORE<BR/>young folks like adult gangmembers so that they can be electrocuted...other than that nothing.<BR/><BR/>What did you see so far?Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-14592429320850929032008-09-23T23:19:00.000-04:002008-09-23T23:19:00.000-04:00ugh...seeing as i have rearranged my LIFE for my d...ugh...seeing as i have rearranged my LIFE for my dude, i guess i fall into the "fit it in" category. however, i didn't put my life (education/career) on hold for him. if anything, he encourages me to pursue things, just as i do for him. <BR/><BR/>i think you are right. we are SOCIALIZED to behave a certain way. i have always been amazed at how some people raise their boys vs. their girls. unless they are some hippy, they instill in their boys a toughness/lack of emotion that can be unhealthy, while girls are allowed the room to express themselves (yet told from jump to be independent). i aim to raise my son in a way that allows him to be a GREAT person in all aspects: comfortable with himself enough to share his feelings, independent, and just an all-around good dude. <BR/><BR/>sidenote: i was looking over the ballot initiatives in CA this year and noticed prop 5, 6, and 9. all dealing with crime, and specifically drug laws. i wonder why we haven't heard more about this? what's your take on them?the prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-27414245926444566712008-09-23T21:43:00.000-04:002008-09-23T21:43:00.000-04:00Okay..will do.Me and my people can def show Model ...Okay..will do.<BR/><BR/>Me and my people can def show Model minorities from all walks of life a good time. <BR/>=======<BR/>And I am certainly from "several walks" of life.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-31921534627494740982008-09-23T20:48:00.000-04:002008-09-23T20:48:00.000-04:00I more than likely will be around. I was thinking ...I more than likely will be around. I was thinking of spending christmas in canada with some Fam, but i havent made any concrete decisions.<BR/><BR/>Holla at me and let me know whats up. Me and my people can def show Model minorities from all walks of life a good time. <BR/><BR/>Easy<BR/><BR/>-J!!!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00769674709454024269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-1674044090859354032008-09-23T16:47:00.000-04:002008-09-23T16:47:00.000-04:00I think part of it is a biological sense of securi...I think part of it is a biological sense of security that women find in men. It's like how men biologically find sexual pleasure in women.<BR/>=======<BR/>Negro. Based on what?<BR/><BR/>Are you saying that there is a pleasure for security trade off taking place?<BR/>If so, based on what?<BR/><BR/>But your are definitely right when you say, Men think women are expendable, replaceable and in ample supply.<BR/>==<BR/>Really. Based on what?Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-5162211378216644592008-09-23T16:32:00.000-04:002008-09-23T16:32:00.000-04:00While, socialization is partly due the woman choos...While, socialization is partly due the woman choosing men before career, it's hard for me to give all the credit to our socialization. I think part of it is a biological sense of security that women find in men. It's like how men biologically find sexual pleasure in women. In my opinion men, choose career because they want more women and less commitment, which also has biological implications.<BR/><BR/> And don't forget that socialization has also taught many women seek careers first. Although society is not a progressive as it should be, there is a real sense of feminist pride. And it's growing. Just look at how the campaign.<BR/><BR/>But your are definitely right when you say, Men think women are expendable, replaceable and in ample supply.TROUBLManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341356041977824446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-34689458765578313452008-09-23T14:52:00.000-04:002008-09-23T14:52:00.000-04:00My response is "If you could do what I do..so much...My response is "If you could do what I do..so much better than me...why aren't you doing it?"<BR/><BR/>========<BR/>Yes mam.<BR/><BR/>Glad you commented. Keep coming back.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-53571011816336000722008-09-23T13:52:00.000-04:002008-09-23T13:52:00.000-04:00This is very interesting. I found that when I was ...This is very interesting. <BR/><BR/>I found that when I was single...I focused more. I was able to schedule dates and outings, plus focus on my studies. <BR/><BR/>When I was in a relationship...I ended up putting so much to the side I almost failed out.<BR/><BR/>Needless to say that when I finally finished my degree...I was single lol<BR/><BR/>I watched my ex soar to heights with an idea from me..yet when he was focused on it...I was focused on him. I am still reaping what I sowed.<BR/><BR/>(first question) People give me advice all the time...sometimes they come hard with it. Even going as far as to basically tell me how to do what I'm doing. My response is "If you could do what I do..so much better than me...why aren't you doing it?"<BR/><BR/>That usually shuts them up<BR/><BR/>I love your posts...even though I dont always comment..DJ Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00451826686021671892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-31998143194905718222008-09-22T21:55:00.000-04:002008-09-22T21:55:00.000-04:00But thats probably because most of the time they c...But thats probably because most of the time they cost me more money than they make me.<BR/><BR/>Im sure that comes off alot worse than i actually mean it, but i really dont have the time explain myself.<BR/>========<BR/>Neggrrroooo everything we say got a BIT of truth to it...I am thinking of coming down ya way for xmas...you gonna be around?Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-18708006724531382102008-09-22T21:53:00.000-04:002008-09-22T21:53:00.000-04:00I'm the only one telling me to focus these days. E...I'm the only one telling me to focus these days. Everyone else seems to think I have my shit together.<BR/>I am the first to admit that I used to drop everything and anything to kick it with a dude I liked. <BR/>============<BR/>Ain't that some shit. For reals.<BR/><BR/>Glad you left a comment. I can tell it came straight from the heart too.<BR/><BR/>THIS was one of them POSTS.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-39131279124564871692008-09-22T20:57:00.000-04:002008-09-22T20:57:00.000-04:00"This would indicate that we are expendable, repla..."This would indicate that we are expendable, replaceable and in ample supply."<BR/><BR/>Hold up. We're not? <BR/><BR/>Kidding.<BR/><BR/>I think you and Filthy are right in that a lot of it is conditioning (which seems like the best reason and worst excuse for everything). But once you realize that, you gotta make changes.<BR/><BR/>I'm the only one telling me to focus these days. Everyone else seems to think I have my shit together. <BR/>I am the first to admit that I used to drop everything and anything to kick it with a dude I liked. In a past relationship, I started to see this as a problem. My ex's work ethic and need to spend time working on himself was admirable and it made me realize I wasn't spending enough time on my own obligations or working on me. So I switched gears, but honestly, I'd rush through my work or put it off completely the second he wanted to hang out. We eventually compromised, meeting up to work independently in each other's company. I remember thinking, This is probably what a marriage feels like, but I enjoyed it.<BR/><BR/>I recently hung out with a dude but set a curfew, which I announced to him as soon as I got to his place, so that I'd hold myself accountable to it. I got to see him, make the most of my time with him, and then I went home and worked on my lessons for the next day - all before my bedtime.<BR/><BR/>Part of me doesn't even care to look at it in terms of gender roles and societal conditioning. Part of me just sees it as personal responsibility and being grown.<BR/><BR/>Oh. And also...<BR/><BR/>"I think to myself that their comment is about them, not about me. I also think that perhaps they are not taking care of the things that they need to do hence the desire to tell me what to do."<BR/><BR/>For real.ahnkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12644716230385362982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-44450910827270007962008-09-22T20:56:00.000-04:002008-09-22T20:56:00.000-04:00Your totally right.As a man, i tend to put work fi...Your totally right.<BR/><BR/>As a man, i tend to put work first and women second. <BR/><BR/>But thats probably because most of the time they cost me more money than they make me. <BR/><BR/>Im sure that comes off alot worse than i actually mean it, but i really dont have the time explain myself.<BR/><BR/>-J!!!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00769674709454024269noreply@blogger.com