tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post8094142120020525087..comments2023-11-05T05:17:45.320-05:00Comments on Model Minority "Thugs, Feminists and Boom Bap": Dirty Drawls LoveM.Dot.http://www.blogger.com/profile/05113752779973426025noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-88493312308722077862009-04-01T21:28:00.000-04:002009-04-01T21:28:00.000-04:00God is all about NEW.====Really? Hmmmmmmm... not s...God is all about NEW.<BR/>====<BR/>Really? Hmmmmmmm... not so sure about that...God is about Love...new...?????Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-30697959130938589612009-04-01T19:21:00.000-04:002009-04-01T19:21:00.000-04:00Tell me about it @ hurt. But that's where He teach...Tell me about it @ hurt. But that's where He teaches us how to let go and let Him. It's difficult 'cos we wanna be in control we want the old times back but God is all about NEW.neohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482376355312549331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-50603720875471439902009-04-01T12:13:00.000-04:002009-04-01T12:13:00.000-04:00Yep and in addition you have to be prepped for wha...Yep and in addition you have to be prepped for whatever God decides to do which can and does sometimes include taking the person out of your life for good.<BR/>======<BR/>You feel me. That ish hurts the worse man.<BR/>But, there ain't no controlling.<BR/><BR/>I have two patnas that have been removed.<BR/>I use to stress it, but I now realize,<BR/>if it don't fit don't force it mayne.<BR/><BR/>Being abused is not a condition of friendship.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-27148336733914517662009-04-01T00:42:00.000-04:002009-04-01T00:42:00.000-04:00Yep and in addition you have to be prepped for wha...Yep and in addition you have to be prepped for whatever God decides to do which can and does sometimes include taking the person out of your life for good.neohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482376355312549331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-45749574015558669702009-03-31T10:41:00.000-04:002009-03-31T10:41:00.000-04:00For a r/ship to breathe its important that signifi...For a r/ship to breathe its important that significant others remain significant to one another. I had to learn this the rather 'hard' way with my ex.<BR/>========<BR/>Right. You had to learn. The fact that women are socialized to always say yes, doesn't help us. So for us to say<BR/>no to someone we LOVE or have feelings for is like errrrkkkkk, record scratch.<BR/><BR/>Dude. I am telling you, being able to be alone or just have the tools to pre occupy your self is a gift.<BR/>I mean at one point I was seriously praying, "God take him out my life and fill in the hole, this hurts, and only you can fix it, bring him back if and when he is ready." I mean. That is bugged ish to be praying for, but I am learned<BR/>how to do it, how to see that I wasn't in control of it.M.Dot.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05113752779973426025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-11694551700773739412009-03-31T10:37:00.000-04:002009-03-31T10:37:00.000-04:00Paullllllllllllllll.Why did your comment just now ...Paullllllllllllllll.<BR/><BR/>Why did your comment just now post.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing. I really appreciate your honesty.<BR/><BR/>I think that's where a lot of us end up. You sort of settle.<BR/>======<BR/>See. I work a lot on personal development. Which means dedicating hella time to dealing w/ my past, focusing on the future, and trying to be the person that God would have me to be. Settling...is just painful. Don't trip, I did it for a minute and I paid for it. Undefined boundaries will have your heart, mind and wallet fucked up.<BR/><BR/>It's weird because it's hard to tell a person what you want right up front. <BR/>=====<BR/>Hard but not impossible.<BR/>You risk rejection.<BR/><BR/>BUT.<BR/><BR/>You also risk getting GETTING your needs met.<BR/>Awesome.<BR/><BR/>It's very forward and direct, and ya'know, sometimes relationships aren't even so well defined to the point where you can even have that conversation. <BR/>=======<BR/>True. I am not saying that every re <BR/>has to be define. Its just that<BR/>if I want to coast, then I should CHOOSE<BR/>to coast. If i want to just kick it with<BR/>a dude then I should CHOOSE to. Falling <BR/>into someone elses lane is a FAIL.<BR/><BR/>Funny how a person grows.<BR/>=====<BR/>Amen. I watch Filthy do it all the time.M.Dot.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05113752779973426025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-79899038936400536272009-03-30T19:54:00.000-04:002009-03-30T19:54:00.000-04:00For a r/ship to breathe its important that signifi...For a r/ship to breathe its important that significant others remain significant to one another. I had to learn this the rather 'hard' way with my ex. It wasn't until long after we broke up I realized I didn't treat her nor put her on the pedestal she should've been. It took a lot of growing up on my part to see that, own up to it, admit and apologize.neohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482376355312549331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-1577489992470392312009-03-29T02:04:00.000-04:002009-03-29T02:04:00.000-04:00Very thoughtful and interesting post.I very rarely...Very thoughtful and interesting post.<BR/><BR/>I very rarely comment on anything relationship-based, period, but here goes. <BR/><BR/>I would agree, it is important to be able voice your wants and your needs to a partner or potential partner. To me, those conversations push that person in one of three directions. One, they run for the border, saying wow this chick is out of her mind if she thinks I'm going to do x, y, and z, I barely know her. Two, they see that much potential in this person that they instantly step to the plate and meet your requirements. Or three, they fall somewhere in the middle, and either make a better effort as things progress, or make less of an effort as things deteriorate. And that's when the relationship gets sort of muddied. It's like, well this person is sorta OK, but they're not great. And then you're stuck. <BR/><BR/>I think that's where a lot of us end up. You sort of settle. <BR/><BR/>It's weird because it's hard to tell a person what you want right up front. It's very forward and direct, and ya'know, sometimes relationships aren't even so well defined to the point where you can even have that conversation. Which is another topic altogether, but just saying. <BR/><BR/>Reading this does bring back some memories though. I remember having those convos with my last g/f, what she expected and wanted of me. Sort of funny in retrospect. They were such simple things, things I'd ordinarily do now without even a second guess, but back then I guess they were a big deal. Funny how a person grows.Paul Cantorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02145388564928630425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-294556326621962642009-03-27T23:32:00.000-04:002009-03-27T23:32:00.000-04:00Hey miss Hot Comb Pics....Glad you like the post.....Hey miss Hot Comb Pics....Glad you like the post....You been here for most of this...Smile.<BR/><BR/>Hey Miss Nina...Glad you love this.<BR/>I felt REAL vulnerable...but it is what it is...Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-49246060352643599572009-03-27T18:28:00.000-04:002009-03-27T18:28:00.000-04:00It's not hard if it's taught...early. I won't mak...It's not hard if it's taught...early. I won't make the mistake my mother made.<BR/><BR/>LOVE this post.Nina MMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709290897421923767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-9767690690749337652009-03-27T10:26:00.000-04:002009-03-27T10:26:00.000-04:00voicing expectations is hard for me too. i'm not ...voicing expectations is hard for me too. i'm not sure why...but lately have been forcing myself to in all sorts of relationships and it has necessarily meant my expectations get met but many times they are and, when not, i know why and don't have to just be bubbling mad on the inside...UPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08248194595900627574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-40231520392715684302009-03-26T18:31:00.000-04:002009-03-26T18:31:00.000-04:00Oh snap. I thought I did.Hmmp. ***Goes and does it...Oh snap. I thought I did.<BR/><BR/>Hmmp. ***Goes and does it now.Model Minorityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18364810029145290617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14243811.post-9732292340196508032009-03-26T02:01:00.000-04:002009-03-26T02:01:00.000-04:00a. simply orange is the bomb.b. because it's h...a. simply orange is the bomb.<BR/><BR/>b. because it's hard being vulnerable & trusting someone will not use it against you.<BR/><BR/>c. you didn't send me the email you were talking bout.the prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.com