Monday, September 24, 2007

Sex and Money in the City

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You ever have one of them jobs where peeing
should happen at a minimum,
going on
vacation is a 'NICE IDEA" and your "personal" e-mail is blocked?


Well.

My current gig is like this and I have never
seen anything like it before.


And baby let me tell you. It is a beast.

As much as a I talk about finance and M & A, last week I had the opportunity
to see it up close and it is one of the most pro white male,
darwinian environments that I have ever come across.

You see.

I saw the glass ceiling last week. I threw gum at it.
I kicked it.

And I learned that even with training (on how to analyze legal
and financial issues, credentials) your success STILL by and large turns
on how many White Allies you have.

It reminds me of the Civil Rights movement and the fact that it was effective
not because it was black, but it was black, brown and white.

It felt like L-School all over again.

Here I was in an environment. At a prestigious firm. The only Black Lady.

And the expectations were here (raises hand above head) and the training
was here (places hand near knee).

I was like, HOW CAN I, who has an interest in the material, a bubbly personality
and a knack for people be expected to WIN in this environment?

Oh did I mention that I was suppose to be assisting people who I had not
been introduced to.

Now how am I suppose to help you if I don't know what you look like?
LOL.

Oh. Wait. Im not expected to win. HA!

People TALK about mentoring. But I think thats vague. N*ggas NEED retention
sponsors.

We need them for Work, School and Personal Intimate Relationships.

My observation underscores the fact that one of the most powerful things
that a progressive person can do is build a school, start and business
and work for themselves. Perhaps most importantly, they can
advocate on the behalf of others who's voices have been silenced.

Its natural to FEEL more confident when you see people
who LOOK like you in positions of power.

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Speaking of money the times has a an article in The Times
about the challenges
that WHITE women are facing because
they are earning more than their counterparts
in the big cities.

The shift is playing out in new, unanticipated ways on the dating front. Women are encountering forms of hostility they weren’t prepared to meet, and are trying to figure out how to balance pride in their accomplishments against their perceived need to bolster the egos of the men they date.

A lot of young women “are of two minds,” said Stephanie Coontz, director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families, a research organization. “On one hand, they’re proud of their achievements, and they think they want a man who shares house chores and child care. But on the other hand they’re scared by their own achievement, and they’re a little nervous having a man who won’t be the main breadwinner. These are old tapes running in their head: ‘This is how you get a man.’ ”

Tell them ladies to sit down and chat with some Black women.

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Are white women finally beginning to see,
at least in the big cities,
the impact that the
education disparity has on their mating rituals?

I wonder what they will do about it?

All you have to do is open up Essence to see an
article on "Where are the Good Black Men", "I Can't Find
a Good Black Man" and so forth. As far as Im concerned that
sh*t is deficit thinking. <<<----Can feel the fight
brewing with those words. Shots fired?

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For the record. I love y'all.
Cuz I posted this sh*t on my lunch break,
standing in 2 inch heels, in a Kinko's
waiting for a FAX to go through.

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13 comments:

neo said...

I don't get the "black men essence" mag references..

Sportaphile said...

I feel your pain, I'm sure I don't feel it completely, because I'm not a woman, but I've been through similar problems in the workplace.

I could go on and on about it.. but it's mildly depressing, and monday night football is on, so I'm not gonna take it there right now.

M.Dot. said...

I could go on and on about it.. but it's mildly depressing, and monday night football is on, so I'm not gonna take it there right now.
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The FUCKING RAIDERS WON.

Soooo doing a post about raider nation.

I need to see the shit at least once before I move to ahem.....Cowboy land....

M.Dot. said...

Oh Neo.


Basically, my arg is that white women are going through wait black women have Been going through which is experimenting with dating across class lines because of the education disparity between genders.

Essence, EVERY MONTH has an article about "finding a good man", "where are all the men", "how to keep a man"...now don't get me wrong, I read each month cover to cover...I am a news hound....I would like them to be more imaginative.

I also read "Bitch magazine" too. So that says a lot about "MY" disposition.

the prisoner's wife said...

"I read each month cover to cover...I am a news hound....I would like them to be more imaginative.

I also read "Bitch magazine" too. So that says a lot about "MY" disposition."


what about "Bust"? i digs that mag.

but give me Essence over Ebony ANY day of the week.

M.Dot. said...

get outta my head.

I heart BUST and you as well.



HA!

Aunt Jackie said...

Well before we start crying in spilled milk about our white counterparts I do believe that their historical socioeconomic wealth will help them in their continued mating process...shit I see like 4k diamonds passed on thru the family for when he wants to ask a high powered broad to marry him, family money which becomes a down payment on a multi-million dollar home so they can keep up with the joneses.

Black families for most part lack family jewels, and property, and what not, even the middle class would need a few generations of middle class-hood to catch up.

I always say that we won't see another civil war in this country until the average white man gets fed up with his living conditions..

Counting Down now

(i totally blogged on your blog sorry!)

M.Dot. said...

I always say that we won't see another civil war in this country until the average white man gets fed up with his living conditions..

Counting Down now

(i totally blogged on your blog sorry!)
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Never.
Apologize for writing here.

We write so that we can write again;)

neo said...

Hmm..interesting!

M.Dot. said...

Neo.

Imma be in yo State next week, NUCCA.

neo said...

Word? He got it like that?

*runs away*

funny enough my new flame or is it prospect? What do we call these new entrants? New applicant, yeah, is from there but goes to school elsewhere...

fun times.

M.Dot. said...

funny enough my new flame or is it prospect? What do we call these new entrants? New applicant, yeah, is from there but goes to school elsewhere...

fun times.
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don't do ittttttttttttttt.

it sucks.

I am not Star Jones said...

Two years later and this post is still relevant.
wow!

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