I was reading the Village Voice interview with DJ Khaled and he shouted his brothers b-day saying,
"Man, I'm feeling good," Khaled says as he goes live on Orlando's 102 Jamz. "I'm on my way to Orlando 'cause it's my brother's birthday. Mayne: Happy birthday. I love you. No homo.I noted to myself, that was interesting. This dudes notion of masculinity
is so thin, that saying he loves his brother potentially constitutes being gay.
Don't get me wrong.
I get it.
Alledging a mans homosexuality- a man who is NOT gay-
is emasculating, and IT IS a cornerstone of hip hop and American culture.
I get that being soft is a surefire ticket to beatdown city in the hood.
Soft being gay, soft being feminine. Gay being feminine.
^^^^I think I covered enough cultural/sexual landminds?!?!?!?!!?
So I went to Dallas Pens house tonight and I came across
an analysis of whether Jay Z was gay and realized, there is
something amiss here.
Why is being gay such a threat?
Now here is what I know.
Black people have been exposed to gay folks.
Black people got gay folks in they family.
Yet, there are men walking around typing/saying
no homo this or that AND GOT gay folks in they family.
I mean, we are talking the gay uncle, auntie or cousin, brother or sister.
So its not like we haven't been exposed it and that we don't know no
In addition, Black men get locked up. And consequently,
there are men who identify as being hetrosexual and they
have sex with men while they are in prison.
Where do these men fit into the spectrum?
My question is why the fear?
And why the lack of discussion about it?
Why, for Black men, and men in general, the fear