Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Craigslist, Gold Diggers and Baby Mommas.

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Right a around the time tho' some d's came
out last winter, S.bot and I had a conversation
about women and money. Her rationale was that
you gotta either have D's or papes.

Meaning that as women, if we we want to live RIGHT, we have
to have one or the other.

I responded that I wanted BOTH.

She told me I was gonna be messing with
some white ceo types, lol.

I was reminded of our conversation over D's v. papes
when I came across the discussion about the women
who openly requested assistance on Craigslist with finding a
banker or a C-level to date/bag.

Then an alleged banker responded, and shit really got poppin'.

It was ironic that, mildly depressing that the conversation that S.bot
and I had, was timely then, is relevant now, and will probably
be so in the future.


What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City , so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 100 - 150. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 150,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Upon reading this it made me realize how practical she is being.

It also symbolizes how much NYC IS "Millionaire City" because
"150,000 won't get me to central park west."



Oh. Did I mention that an alleged investment banker responded.
He wrote:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

And so it goes.

Could you imagine our cousin Shaquetta going on craiglist talkin' bout,
I want to bag a mid level D boy/college ball player/ rap producer
Must have his own crib, two baby momma's max,
and a extra S class for me to drive.
The above comment is so loaded, I can't BEAR to unpack it.

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Do you think that old girl is being practical or an EPMD
straight UP and DOWN Gold Digger.

Do you think she was being honest or was it a hoax?

Why do you think the media responded the way it did
as pretty women and women in general marry wealthy all the
time.

Perhaps it is the fact that she was so UNABASHED about it.

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12 comments:

Sportaphile said...

I LOVED ole boy's response, thats real. I mean, at the end of the day she was only doing what almost every woman does... look for security. Other women may not prioritize it as strongly as she does, but I believe it's something that definitely plays a pretty good factor.

Where she messed up is not making herself seem like an attractive catch. Physically attractive women are a dime a dozen. I'm gonna choose some harsh words for my next statement, but I think it's warranted as a response to her ad.

Dumb hoes who are physically attractive are a dime a dozen. It's easier for a man who's ballin to find another fine chick then it will be for her to find another man making 500k. So he was right, its not an even trade. Looks and sex will NOT keep a relationship healthy and functioning correctly. Things like this are the reason Halle Berry got cheated on.

No matter how beautiful a woman is, theres a man somewhere who's sick of having sex with her.

So after she stated her financial requests, it would have been wise to list off what she offered other than the physical.

M.Dot. said...

Physically attractive women are a dime a dozen. I'm gonna choose some harsh words for my next statement, but I think it's warranted as a response to her ad.

Dumb hoes who are physically attractive are a dime a dozen.
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I get it. Wall streeters, not 500K, but 150-200k checked for me this past spring because a.) I ran and they were impressed by that b.) They could talk Merrill, Goldman work talk and my eyes wouldn't roll in the back of my head out of boredom.

Having someone who is caked up hold you in high esteem is a fine art.

The delicate line is that YOU are getting chose.

Ultimately its getting chose p*mp shit in reverse.

neo said...

Funny I dealt with a chick sometime ago who had a similar mindset when it came to status. I know that women the world over want financial security, it is ingrained (speaking from an African perspective) into them from their born-day up till adulthood.."you need a man who can take care of you my daughter" says the mother to her child...

With that said, in this particular case I have to side with homeboy. Men I think at this point, at least I'd like to think in this day and age know that women are with them not just for love or their looks but how well they can take care of them financially..again I don't necessarily have a problem with this but the presentation of it can really disqualify a lady with any man and in homegirl's case she presented it in a very gold-diggerish manner 'cos she made it all about what the man had to offer only in financial terms and what she had to offer in physical terms and then referenced a woman who she felt had nothing going for her physically but landed the kind of man with the finances she's looking for.

I think every woman deserves a good man that can provide for her and family in general but the main issue is how do you present that desire? Is that the first thing that jumps out of your mouth when you meet a dude? Or do you subtly hint at it but from a perspective of look man I want you to know I'm feeling you but I also would like for us to go at this grind and make papes together...as opposed to "you have to have a, b, c dollars and cents then I'll get wit you"

neo said...

In addition, no man wants to feel like they're being leeched, in fact no one at all...women included. Some ppl say r/ships are a business transaction (I actually used to say this in terms of trade-offs) but its less business than it is transaction, in the sense that if a r/ship is only based on continued profitability and tangibles regardless of any surrounding circumstance when said tangibles and profitability disappear what then? 'Cos the truth is ppl will get on each other's nerves, make each other mad, sad, happy, we will grow older and thus beauty will fade, we may not always be around each other...if nothing deeper holds us together a breakup is certainly ahead.

and like ol' boy rightly said, my money will more than likely get longer, your beauty not so much 90210 provisions included. So basically dude is saying, yeah you're fine...and?

Which is a question I myself have asked and posed to females who want to be in r/ships...

J!!! said...

I think she went about it the wrong way. its obvious something about her on an everyday basis isnt attractive to a man of means. i would have said what that guy said too. when I deal with women, they always gotta bring something to the table that will benefit us both equally in the relationship or im not commiting. Id rather a girl to want me more so than need me. its obvious she would NEED me in order to get to central park west, which automatically disqualifies her.

Shes on point for thinking that way, shes just not going about it the right way, cause if thats at the apex of her thoughts every time she deals with a new man he'll spot her true intentions just from body language.

M.Dot. said...

it is ingrained (speaking from an African perspective) into them from their born-day up till adulthood.."you need a man who can take care of you my daughter" says the mother to her child...
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Taken care of. Eh?

M.Dot. said...

Id rather a girl to want me more so than need me.
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Say word.

Aunt Jackie said...

having read both of these what i would consider hoax posts i keep wondering if i am the only one who sees the misogyny in old boys response.

men who pursue money into the millions often only see the world in dollars and cents, which is to day that if men still don't know that married men live longer than single men, women bear the family fruit so to speak and continue lineage, children's educational aptitude is more often than not measured thru the mother as she is more often than not the primary care giver....Any man who is looking at a woman for beauty only and sees beauty as a depreciating asset is probably a future wife beater anyway.

I think the second underlying inuendo here is that 'black' women probably shouldn't be trying to fish in that pond.

I could go on but it's your blog!

M.Dot. said...

Any man who is looking at a woman for beauty only and sees beauty as a depreciating asset is probably a future wife beater anyway.

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Nice.

I think the second underlying inuendo here is that 'black' women probably shouldn't be trying to fish in that pond.

I could go on but it's your blog!
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Which pond may that be?

Aunt Jackie said...

the pond of men who make over 500k, cuz folks want us to believe that statistically by the time a man makes that much money he's ready for a white girl!

neo said...

@ auntie jackie: don't see any misogyny there...she put herself out there like she was actually making a business transaction..lol. Based on good business-sense her offer doesn't match up.

M.Dot. said...

Aunt Jackie said...

the pond of men who make over 500k, cuz folks want us to believe that statistically by the time a man makes that much money he's ready for a white girl!
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WHY ARE YOU SOOOOOOOOO UP IN MY HEAD?
My next post is gonna be on the Black men/White women in the BAY.

Ummm...let me think about your response.

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