I have been thinking about Spitzergate.
The Duke Rape Case.
Karrine Stepans, her books and the reflexive venom
she elicits from those in the online hip hop world.
I have been thinking about my voice in the
Been thinking about Akon and his assault case with the 16 teenager
that looked older than 16.
I remember, when we were discussing issues, being the lone female
voice in a largely, cyber, male environment. Not complaining.
I got agency. Spitzergate reminded me of Akon, which
inspired me to try and draw some connections.
Feeling better than some head on a Sunday afterno0nWhen the Akon event happened,
feeling better than a chick that say yes too soon
Until you have a daughter, thats what I call karma
Then you pray god, that she don't grow breasts to soon
~We Major, Kanye
cats were talking about "I would hit it, she look good".
I came back at them with a question.
I asked, "Have you ever rocked with a girl, and it soon became
clear that while she consented to something sexual that
she was in over her head?"
I also reminded cats that the girl, no matter how grown
she looked, was someone's underage daughter.
With the Duke Rape Case, I went back and forth with Dallas
about his perception of the extent to which "the responsibility"
for the Black Family fell on the Momma. I took a issue with notion that
it overwhelming fell on the mothers and many others did as well.
I remember going hard with dudes, after Karinne's book
came out. To them, she was the scummiest scum, because
she kissed and told. Same with Nas's baby momma.
During these times, all I kept thinking was we can listen
to Fat Joe, 50 Cent, Mobb Deep, Wu Tang, Boot Camp,
Jay Z, The Clipse, Freeway, talk about selling crack and
they get the STRAIGHT PASS, but a woman has sex with
a rapper and talks about it and she is as wrong as 10 snitches.
I was instantly reminded of this when I saw this Jay
Smooth video where he talks about the "irony" of Ashley Dupree
capitalizing on her situation to getting a deal ".
Last week, Kirstoff at The Times shared some gems on
Spitzergate and the sex trade. He writes,
Reading between the sheets, the world of “Kristen” and Eliot Spitzer may seem relatively benign. She may have been abused as a child, and tangled with drugs and homelessness, but she was also a consenting adult who apparently kept half the cash that customers paid for her.I have a really good pimp... That's some bugged out sh-t.
That’s a dangerously unrepresentative glimpse of prostitution in America. Those who work with street prostitutes say that what they see daily is pimps who control teenage girls with violence and threats — plus an emotional bond — and then keep every penny the girl is paid.
“Sometimes I meet a girl who says, ‘I have a really good pimp — he beats me only with an open hand,’ ” said Rachel Lloyd, a former prostitute who runs a program for underage prostitutes in New York City. “Many of the girls see the pimps as boyfriends, but violence is integral to everything that happens in the sex industry. That’s how you get punished for not bringing in your quota for that evening, or for looking your pimp in the eye.”
I couldn't believe Kristoff said this. I read it a few times,
Every evening she must earn a quota of money before she can sleep. She may be required to tattoo the pimp’s name on her thigh. And in exchange he may make presents of clothing or jewelry.
It’s complicated: What keeps her isn’t just fear, but also often an emotional connection.
“When somebody wields power over you to kill you and doesn’t, you feel this bizarre thankfulness,” Mr. Myles said. “It’s trauma bonding.”
When a middle-class white girl ends up controlled like this — think of Elizabeth Smart, the Utah girl who was kidnapped in 2002 and apparently did not try to escape — then everybody is outraged at the way the kidnapper manipulated her. But when the girls are black, poor and prostituted, there is either indifference or an assumption that they are consenting to the abuse.
thinking that perhaps, it was a quote, but he said it.
Sex Sells, But No One Wants to Talk About Buying It.